The value of curiosity

Choose to live in a state of curiosity. It’s much more fun. Image by Marija Zaric on Unsplash

What I’ve learnt this week – in more ways than one – is the power of curiosity.

When we’re faced with situations we don’t like, we have a choice.

We can choose to spiral into chaos, hurt and anger, projecting all kinds of stories about what we presume has happened, and what the other person or people is/are thinking. I’ve made that mistake more times than I can count.

But a better option is available to us. We can choose to get curious.

We can feel upset, and still operate from a place of curiosity. This means asking questions before forming opinions.

This week, I’ve been pleasantly surprised at the response I receive when I choose curiosity over guns-blazing fight mode. I’ve found that the other person’s truth looks quite different to the story I fabricated in my head.

And there’s another upside to getting curious: deeper connection.

When we ask questions rather than accuse and blame, we open to the door to better relationships.

Curiosity also means becoming aware of our impact on the people around us. We often want to be heard, but we don’t realise it’s a two-way street.

Do you want to be heard? First, you have to LISTEN.

If you want to be heard, start by listening. Image by Nick Fewings on Unsplash.

In order for people to be curious about us, we have to start by being curious about them. (Thank you to Gigi Sage for teaching me that one.)

Sure, there are some people who will never be curious, and who will stay stuck in their own story. Leave them to it. One day, they’ll wake up to find no-one stuck around, and they’ll wonder why.

Meanwhile, there are plenty of others who will appreciate your attention, and who will repay it in kind.

 Love,

Tamsin xx

3 takeaways from this post:

1.    Can you get curious about your own feelings rather than getting hijacked by your emotions?

2.    Where do you need to get curious instead of furious?

3.    Where do you need to get out of your head and into awareness? Can you ditch the (internal or external) monologue and ask questions instead?

Need help getting curious? Drop me a line if you’d like support, or book a transformational coaching or shamanic healing session here.