How to stop comparing yourself

We all have moments when we feel like we’re at the bottom of the food chain.

Each of us gets mired in comparing ourselves to other people, often unfavourably, judging ourselves by an impossible yardstick that doesn’t actually exist.

That person who seems to be so stunning, so successful, to have the perfect relationship, the seemingly perfect life?

They may have a good life and a great partnership. They may have a great career. And still… you’re only seeing part of the picture.

Because we never truly know what’s going on in someone else’s life – not unless we get curious about them and start asking them questions (instead of expecting them to ask about us).

To help you ditch comparison and the “Everyone has it better than me” story, here are some powerful questions. They’re designed to help you shift back into the driver’s seat of your life.

I invite you to journal on these questions with an open mind. Write freely, letting whatever comes up land on the page. If you don’t like what you wrote, you can always rip it up or burn it afterwards. No-one else ever needs to read those words. Let’s go….

Journaling prompts

  1. What’s here for me? What do I need to see?

  2. Where am I judging myself, and why?

  3. What do I love about myself, and my life?

  4. What do I want to change?

  5. What is within my power to change, and what isn’t?

  6. What am I willing to do about it, and when?

And that final question is key. After all, nothing changes unless we change.

I’ll leave you with a quote from Jen Sincero, author of You Are a Badass.

“If you’re serious about changing your life, you’ll find a way. If not, you’ll find an excuse.”

Love,

Tamsin xo

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